Random Musings of One Tired Momma

I recently ran across this quote on Facebook

When I read it, the words just hit me a little differently. Some people are amazing with words. Some people not so much. I, unfortunately, am part of the latter. I love reading and I enjoy writing, but my vocabulary is pretty mundane.

But anyway, getting back to my point. I have always been a brutally honest person. I’ve always prided myself on speaking honesty even if it was hurtful. In my younger days, hurting others was not something I concerned myself with when it came to being honest. As I’ve gotten older, my mind has matured and my heart has grown in patience, forgiveness and love, I’ve come to realize that I can be honest without being hurtful.

I come from a home of five and that includes two siblings (sisters). I didn’t have any brothers. Growing up as a female in a home full of females, I can honestly say that the female variety can be very mean. Men, although brutal sometimes, are pretty straightforward with their emotions. Women, not so much. We tend to overthink everything, over-analyze everything, over-react to most things, and over-dramatize most things. Now, with that said, I am not your over-the-top feminist. I believe men and women have a place in this world and when either/or are not trying to rewrite history but are trying to live a life according to religious beliefs and what the Bible teaches, then life can be lived remarkably well. In essence, a person can honor their beliefs and what the Bible teaches through not only speaking and acting with honesty and integrity, but doing so with kindness.

Our words can be honest, but without malice and hurtfulness. It becomes the art of speaking.

Just because we have the ability to speak our minds in whatever wording fashion we choose, does NOT mean we should.

Just because we have the ability to do whatever pops into our mind, does NOT mean we should.

The ability to discern the differences of speaking with kindness or speaking bluntly shows the level of maturity (or lack thereof) in one’s emotional stability and growth.

Through my own fault, I have learned that I can be honest without being hurtful. However, I am not self-righteous enough to claim that I do so 100% of the time.

I am a work in progress.